**The ideas contained in this post are the opinions of the writer and communicated without reference to supporting documentation. The writer also recognizes that BPD is a disorder that affects both males and females, and uses of “she” or “he” in the communication of ideas are not intended to covey sexual bias. Breakaway MHE Disclaimer
Have you ever noticed that as you begin learning, thinking and talking about your mental health, the reasons for your suffering can (in part) be traced back to our ways of living and the systems of ideas we cling to? For instance, as we devote much of our time and energy to earing money or building businesses to participate in a capitalistic system, a natural consequence of this pattern can be the neglect of mental health and relationships. Then as we neglect these essential parts of our being through these living patterns, we tend to develop symptoms and become sick (possibly both physically and mentally).
It may be hard to believe, especially for those who passionately believe that money is of major significance to ensure human health and well-being. However, mental health cannot be bought with money or be materially induced. On the contrary, it could be said that the more a person believes that money and material things are the true source of peace and joy, the further away that person will actually be from having his mental health. True mental and relational health only comes from proper time and attention devoted to the subject, and through regular practicing skills that help make these things possible.
When the primary interest in life is acquiring money and things, the consistent result is less energy, less time, and less opportunity to engage in health and relationship practices. The temporary sense of well-being available through money and acquisition of things can act very well as a counterfeit to real well-being. In truth however, sustainable mental and relational health only becomes available after a dependence on (and attachment to) money and things are abandoned. Unfortunately, many will not believe this truth until they become sick themselves or begin to notice their relationships falling apart. Even then, many will still not believe and find someone or something other to blame.
Of course there may be many other enticements or interests that contribute to health neglect besides money, but consider carefully how much time you invest in growing a bank account and meeting the financial demands of the day. Since most people likely don’t pay much attention to this, it may come as a surprise to discover how little time is left over for essential mind and body maintenance activities. Obviously we are not outright encouraged to neglect ourselves by society, but it becomes an easy trap to fall into given the rules of capitalist system participation (always perceiving we are under threat of losing our comforts, conveniences, safety and security if money isn’t acquired and paid to those we are obligated).
Those who may be particularly affected by falling into the trap of mental health and relational neglect would be parents of children. This is likely true because of the many extra financial obligations that come as a result of raising a family. Sometimes parents are required to work excessive hours or multiple jobs just to keep up with regular bills and provide for the many additional needs (and wants) of the family unit. Meeting these needs and wants can easily get prioritized over essential health and relational care activities. Children may therefore experience varying degrees of neglect as their parents become more unavailable, more preoccupied, and more unwell.
Quite often these types of neglect go unnoticed for an entire childhood development, and this can be the beginning point for conditions like Borderline Personality Disorder (and others) to take root. The essential point in the matter is whether or not a child has access to a healthy parent and experiences a healthy attachment. Where these things are absent to a child, for whatever reason, there is a chance mental health difficulties will be a part of that child’s future.