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Feeling like nobody cares… like you are alone or rejected…. like you have no worth… like you are a burden on others… like you will soon be betrayed or abandoned ?????
You are not alone. These are some of the most common feelings experienced by those suffering with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). These emotions are very painful and unwanted by the person experiencing them. Sadly however, this raw emotional pain is very often completely invisible to others, meaning that the BPD struggle and associated behaviors are too often seen by ‘outsiders’ as senseless and irrational.
A person with Borderline Personality Disorder is sometimes desperate for understanding from others, but feels like this understanding never seems to come. Lack of understanding/validation from others can result in ongoing and deep emotional pain (like an emotional torture). Quite often the only way to truly appreciate what it is like to live with BPD is to have experienced it yourself.
Chronic emotional suffering often leads to chronic reactions to suffering (of various sizes and varieties) that almost always make life worse… yelling, screaming, tantrums, accusing, hiding, stonewalling, thrill-seeking, bingeing, substance-abusing, obsessing, isolating, giving up, self-harming, etc. etc. etc. The point of the behavior might be to avoid unwanted emotions, to try and release unwanted emotions, to get a break from pain, to be punished for being a “bad person”, to slowly or quickly die, to change a situation that seems threatening, to feel safe, or to feel alive.
Some or all of the above behaviors (and reasons for behavior) might apply in any given moment of suffering. Desperate and ineffective behaviors like these are almost never what they seem, although they are often inappropriately judged by others for what they appear to be… manipulation, bad attitude, uncooperative, irresponsible, purposeful, etc.
Over time a person realizes that being in constant pain and reacting to pain in ways that are extreme and ineffective does not work. And so there needs to be a solution… a way to live with what is happening… in a world that barely has the capacity to understand what is happening.
This is where the BreakAway Mental Health Engineers community has a place…. We are here, we get it, and we know how to help you help yourself. We can also help others better understand what you are going through and how best to be supportive. After spending some time on our site, we believe you will better understand what has been happening, get stronger, and quite possibly begin a life changing process of healing.
Learning how to become a warrior in the survival of Borderline Personality Disorder entails learning about real love. Many people believe that they know what real love is all about, including how to actively do it for themselves and others, and in relationships. But this is not so. If more people understood what real love was all about, then there would be much less mental and physical illness than we see presently in the world. There are many low quality and false forms of love built into western culture (e.g., small talk, distracted talk, escapism, materialism, consumerism, overworking, obsessing, substance abusing, etc.) that unfortunately replace practices that foster real and healthy connections.
Developing an expertise to know the difference between low quality love, false love, and real love is therefore essential, and is potentially available through your warrior training with BreakAway MHE.
For many mental health issues, and for Borderline Personality Disorder in particular, the symptoms and problems can often be traced back to a development gone wrong. We all go through a developmental process in the early years of our lives, but for many of us there are different forms of neglect or abuse that result in faulty learning (or lack of learning). Some of us did not have the opportunities with caregivers for learning how to function effectively in our body and in relationships. The end result of this is often disorder.
Add to this the fact that some are born with genetic susceptibility to experience emotions with greater intensity (an additional, invisible, and incomprehensible challenge) that requires specialized understanding and skill to manage. Getting better therefore requires a whole new understanding of self and learning a new set of rules to think and live by.
There is in fact a pattern to disorder that when properly understood provides a way out of disorder. Likewise, there is a pattern to healthy existence that when properly understood contributes to a more enjoyable life experience. Borderline Personality Disorder DOES have a pattern that CAN be understood and modified into something less destructive.
Other more common disorders (depression and anxiety, for instance) are often a by-product of the BPD pattern. So, if you can learn to witness a pattern in your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and in your relationships, then you can learn to free yourself of many symptoms and have a different life experience. People do it all the time when they have reached the point of being fed up with their life experience, so why not you?
Our FREE information site includes access to a 9-step program for overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder.
The 9-step program is brought to you by Peter Miller, a mental health therapist with a Master’s Degree in Counseling Psychology and plenty of experience both living with and treating BPD. Through each of the 9-steps, Peter shares his experiences living with BPD and how he found his way out of disorder after gaining correct understanding and learning essential skills.
By working through each of the 9-steps, we are confident you will make steady gains in your knowledge and understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder. The 9-steps will help you answer commonly held questions about BPD, such as…
How did this happen to me?
What’s going on inside my head?
Why am I always so mean to myself with my thoughts?
Why are my emotions so extreme?
Why can’t I get what I want in life and relationships?
What can I do to help myself?
What can I do to help others understand me?
If you are absolutely sick and tired of living with Borderline Personality Disorder, then we are glad you found us. Being completely fed up with dysfunction quite often works to induce the necessary passion and motivation to start making changes. If you have this kind of passion and motivation, then we invite you to get started right away!